“How can she do this, she must have done this for her own selfish reasons”, “He shouldn’t have married that girl”, “I don’t think he will ever find out”, we hear from many comments of this type every day. Are you listening for yourself or for someone else? This is called “judgment,” which is carried out by others or sometimes even by our own people.
Big celebrities are victims of it every day. Recently, actress Shibani Dandekar spoke in a podcast about how she faced people’s judgments over her relationship with Farhan Akhtar. She was called a ‘gold digger’ and ‘love jihad’ for her marriage to the actor.
Every day, many people face such comments in their lives, which have a detrimental effect on their hearts and minds. It is very important to overcome this. so today relationship In this section we will talk about the impact of external judgment on people and how we can deal with it.
What does it mean to “judge” someone?
When people express their opinions, thoughts and judgments about others, it is called “Judgment” in English. People can make external judgments in several ways. For example by commenting, criticizing or reacting on any social media platform. To find out better, check out the chart below.
it’s easy to judge others
It’s easy to judge, say bad things, or criticize others. Anyone can do this work, but if someone judges us, that’s what hurts us. The truth is that when we judge others, it does us no good. By badmouthing or criticizing someone, we forget to love and appreciate them.
Being judged by someone has negative effects.
Everyone wants to be liked, accepted and respected by people. After all, who doesn’t like it, but when you are judged, not loved, not understood, not respected, it can damage your self-esteem and confidence. It affects both our heart and our mind and if it creates stress, many mental problems can arise.
I’m afraid of judgment
The author Naval Fagir wrote a book on this subject: “Fear of judgment”. In this book, he gives 8 ways to handle criticism and evaluation. He suggests stopping worrying about what people think. Apart from this, he stated in his book that the best way to live is to not take other people’s criticism personally.
How to deal with external judgment?
It is very important to overcome the fear of judgment from others. Often we think about what people would say if I did this or continue to think that he said bad things about me, criticized my work, said this or that about my character, etc. To ensure that it does not affect our mind, we must overcome it. When we overcome our fear of being judged, what people say has no effect on us. How can this be done, see the suggestion given by the advisor in the graphic below.
Are you afraid of criticism
Some of us are afraid of what people will say, lest they criticize me. Do you also pay attention to the thoughts of others instead of thinking about yourself and always care about the opinions of others? In this regard, ask yourself what those who criticize you think of you and what importance they have in your life. You may find your answer, but it’s easier said than done, so remember these three points shown in the pointers below:
Prioritize how you feel about yourself – If you let outside people, who are only there for you as long as they are with you, decide how you feel, it will never make you happy. Remember that other people’s thoughts are beyond your control. What another person thinks of you is entirely up to them. You have to prioritize yourself. Avoid taking advice from the wrong people. When faced with a dilemma, we often ask the wrong people for advice. Such people leave no chance to judge us. Therefore, share your thoughts only with those close to you. View feedback as an opportunity, not a judgment. Take feedback from others as an opportunity and don’t judge yourself hastily. Because some people judge you while giving you their opinion. There is judgment in comments, but it is up to you to take these comments in a positive and constructive manner.